Nothing says summer like fresh fruit. I like to serve fruit salad at brunch as a side dish or for dessert after a big dinner. Sometimes I add a scoop of fruit salad on top of coconut yogurt or chia pudding to serve to my kids for breakfast. They love it!
The best thing about fruit salad is that you can totally mix up the fruits and it’ll still be delicious every single time. I often substitute pear for apple and swap peaches for strawberries or nectarines. Grapes add a nice crunch to fruit salad too. I usually pick whatver is in season or on sale! Pumpkin seeds provide an amazing source of zinc and many other minerals because these seeds grow underground, within the mineral-rich soil.
My only rule with making fruit salad is that you have to use a variety of colours to not only make it look more beautiful but also to provide the body with a wider range of phytonutrients. More colours = more health benefits to the body. Eat the rainbow, my friends!
Leave a comment below if you tried this Fresh Fruit Salad. I’d love to hear what you think of it and any variations you tried!
For fear of scaring you away, I’ll start with the end. It has been just over two weeks since I took the pacifiers away from my 3-year-old daughter, Liliana. I’m happy to report that she is doing great! She is sleeping through the night without a pacifier and rarely even asks for one anymore. I’m blown away by her progress.
Now for the process of getting to this point. Let’s backtrack for a minute.
When I was pregnant with Liliana, I swore that I would never give her a pacifier. I started breastfeeding her when she was born. Breastfeeding was going well, but she initially had a shallow latch which caused my nipples to crack and blister. I was in tremendous pain. As most newborn babies do, she wanted to nurse around the clock. I was getting little to no time between feeds to let my nipples heal. This is when I understood the role of a pacifier. I needed something for her to suck on for satisfaction for a few minutes between feeds to give me some relief. It was at this moment that I realized sometimes we just need to do whatever it takes to survive the day and stay sane as new mothers, even if it isn’t “best practice.”
My midwife encouraged me to wait to introduce a pacifier until breastfeeding was well established. She advised me to wait until after my daughter had passed her birth weight. This was to make sure she was getting enough calories from my milk and not burning calories unnecessarily from sucking a pacifier all day. It was really important to me to breastfeed, and I committed to doing everything in my power to be successful. So, I listened and held off on introducing one.
When Lil was about 6 weeks old, I hit a wall. I caved and I gave her a pacifier. What a game-changer. She loved to fall asleep on the boob, long after she had finished eating. I started sneaking the pacifier into her mouth after she was finished actively eating. This allowed me to put her down while she was asleep (some of the time), or hand her off to someone else. Exclusively breastfeeding is a fulltime job during the newborn stage. I really needed to be able to put her down at times when she was asleep so I could do things like eat a meal, shower and recover. The pacifier bought me time and for that I was grateful.
Lil took to the pacifier right away. She loved it. When she was around 7 months old, we stopped co-sleeping and “sleep trained” her in a crib in her own room. I use quotes because that term has always irritated me, but alas, it is what we did. Based on what the baby sleep books were saying, we knew this would be a good time to get rid of the pacifiers.
Instead, we got her more of them.
I lined her crib with a breathable mesh bumper and put about 10 pacifiers in there. I wanted her to have something to self-soothe with because I felt guilty about not co-sleeping anymore. She was used to nursing the night away, right up next to me. She did really well with sleep training and got even more attached to her pacifiers.
As she got older, we limited the pacifier use to just naps and bedtime. But it often extended to stroller rides, car rides, sick days, days when teething was bad, and soon it felt like she had a pacifier in her mouth most of the day. Initially, one of my main concerns with the pacifier was that it would delay her speech development. But it didn’t appear to be affecting her language skills in any way. That made me feel like there wasn’t much of a downside to her using one. It made her so happy, and quite frankly, it made our days a lot easier.
Shortly after she turned two-years-old, we took her to the dentist for the first time. We were told that Lil was developing an “open bite.” Our dentist told us that we should plan to eliminate the pacifier by the time she turns three. She told us that if we take the pacifier away prematurely, Liliana could resort to sucking a finger or thumb. This is something she had seen a lot in her practice. We left that appointment with the plan to get rid of the pacifiers at her third birthday.
After that denist appointment, my husband and I got a bit more strict about limiting her pacifier usage to only naps and bedtime. We found that as she was developing larger emotions, she began relying on it more for comfort and it was becoming problematic. When she was having a tantrum at home, she would run to her room to grab a pacifier from her bed. At the moment, it was helpful that she could find a way to calm herself down. But, I knew that this wasn’t a sustainable solution long term and that she needed to learn how to cope with her emotions in different ways. We felt strongly that the pacifier needed to go soon.
A few months before Liliana’s third birthday, we repeatedly talked to her about how she would be turning 3 soon and what was going to happen when she did. We wanted her to be well-prepared for this milestone, and didn’t want to blind-side her. We talked about how we would collect all her pacifiers in a bag to leave for “The Suce Fairy.” (In my house, we actually call it a pacifier a “suce,” pronounced “soose.” The French word for a pacifier is “sucette.”)
We said that the Suce Fairy would take the bag of suces and bring them to a new baby who needed them. We told her that she would get an extra special gift in return. She seemed to understand the plan and was on-board with it. My husband wasn’t keen on using this method because he didn’t like that our plan involved deceiving her. I agreed with him, but I had already mentioned The Suce Fairy to her once, and she fixated on it. So I felt like I had to commit to this plan.
Liliana turned three on a Friday. Earlier that week on Tuesday, she started preschool. I feel the need to emphasize how massive of a transition this was for her because of the timing of the events overlapping.
This was Liliana’s first time ever attending a drop-off program or daycare without me. For three years we had spent every single waking moment together, and many non-awake moments together too! I knew this transition was going to be huge for her, but I also knew in my heart and gut that she was more than ready for it. She needed the stimulation, the outlet for her energy, the structured day, the socialization – all of the amazing aspects that come with preschool. She was going to thrive.
Before she started preschool, I spoke with her teachers about how she was still using a pacifier to go to sleep. They told us that they strongly discourage pacifiers in the preschool classroom and that it’s often a good time to get rid of them at home too. This advice from her teachers combined with the previous advice from her Dentist solidified our decision to take it away when she turned 3-years-old.
Friday, the day she turned 3, was also her first full day at preschool. Tuesday through Thursday of that week, she had been going for shorter days as she built up to a full day. Friday she had her first nap at preschool, and it was without a pacifier. We were shocked when her teachers told us that she slept without one. It gave me hope and confidence for the rest of the process of eliminating the pacifiers. We now knew that it was possible for her to sleep without one.
When Lil got home from school on her birthday, we took her into her room to show her the new dollhouse we bought her in exchange for the pacifiers. Together we collected the pacifiers in a bag. We brought them to the front door where we told her The Suce Fairy would take them at night and bring them to a new baby who needs them. She was actually being really cool about it. She kept saying, “Bye suces! See ya later! Have fun with your new baby!” Her reaction led me to believe that bedtime would be a breeze.
Perhaps it was the combination of her first week of preschool, the sugar from the cake and cupcake she ate that day for her birthday, and the fact that she couldn’t fully grasp that the pacifiers were not coming back. All I know is that things got hairy, quickly.
When we started getting her ready for bed, she immediately asked where her suces were. We had to explain again that they were gone and they weren’t coming back. It completely broke my heart to watch the saddness wash over her as this new reality sunk in. She cried. A lot. She thrashed around. A lot. She yelled and screamed and kicked around in her bed. She left her bed and room a million times. She kept telling us how she didn’t want to be a big girl anymore and that she wanted to be two again. She told us that suces make her so happy – she needed them. Cue the Mom guilt.
All I wanted to do was cave in and give them back to her. But I had to remain strong and stick with the plan. I figured that no matter when we did this transition, it was going to be hard, so why not now!
We told her that we knew this was going to be very hard for her, but that it would get a bit easier each night. We talked about why she felt that she needed the pacifiers. We talked about how they made her feel happy, safe and sleepy. And we talked about other ways that she could get those same comforting feelings from myself and her Dad.
We put a lot of effort into staying as patient as we could with her during this process. Admittedly, we were not always successful with staying patient when she was literally kicking us as we put her into bed, and waking her baby brother in the next room with her screaming – it was frustrating. It’s not easy watching your kid go through something that’s difficult for them.
We gave her as much extra love and attention as we could. I wanted to help her get that same sense of security that she was yearning for from the pacifiers. We were trying our best to understand how earth-shattering this transition was for her and empathize with her while reminding her that she is a strong, brave girl who can do anything.
Sometime after 11PM that first night, she fell asleep reluctantly. Bedtime took 4 hours that night. I felt terrible that it was so hard for her. I also felt terrible that I was going through waves of being very compassionate and patient, to very frustrated that she wouldn’t just back down and go to sleep already. She completely wore my husband and me down. The next day, she woke up at 6AM (much earlier than usual), and the first thing she said when I walked into her room was, “Mom, I’m really sad without my suces.”
Again, my heart re-broke into a million pieces. I felt like the worst Mom and questioned my decision to take them away. But I knew that we just couldn’t go back on our decision, after prepping for this moment as long as we did. So we pushed on. All of us.
The rest of day 2 without pacifiers was one of the most challenging days we’ve experienced in the 3 years we’ve been parents. I’m not going to sugarcoat it. It was a nightmare. It was basically an endless meltdown from sunrise to sunset. It didn’t help that we have a one-year-old son to take care of as well.
She had slept 5 hours less than usual that night, so she was beyond overtired, combined with being overwhelmed from the week of mentally processing the shift into preschool, and adjusting to spending time away from me for the first time in her life. It was a lot for one little girl.
I appreciate that this is probably not inspiring you to take your child’s pacifier away. Truthfully, it was a soul-sucking process and it was much harder than we thought it would be. In the same way that sleep training was. It took every ounce of willpower that my husband and I had to try to stay calm and composed during this new, lengthy bedtime routine. It was hours of screaming and crying. He and I would switch off to relieve the other when we could hear the other’s patience run out through the baby monitor. It was a team effort. We gave her Bach Rescue Remedy Kids to help her calm down. She had never cried so hard and she was so darn tired.
By day 3, after she got a bit more sleep, things started to improve. There were far fewer tears and much less resistance. Still a lot of sadness, but we continued to talk through the emotions with her and reassure her that she could do this. The first few nights she woke up in the middle of the night needing extra cuddles and comfort. During the days, we gave her lots of positive attention and love. She was definitely needing more comfort from us – physically and emotionally.
Night 4 was a hard one again. She was begging for a suce with a desperation that was hard to see. She was thrashing around her bed so much that we were worried she would fall out of it and get hurt. We compromised with her and said she could sleep in the ‘pack n play’ in her room (something she loves to do). We knew that sleeping in there would give her a sense of security and comfort. It also gave us sense of relief knowing that she was safe in there and wouldn’t fall out of her bed, or continuously leave her room.
She slept in the pack n play, in her room, for 3 nights before going back to her bed, willingly. Each day since then has been getting a little bit easier and smoother. Bedtime isn’t taking as long and she’s getting more comfortable going to bed without the pacifier. Just like with sleep training, the first few days are the hardest and it gets worse before it gets better. But it does get better. I promise.
Now that it’s been two weeks, I’m reflecting on the journey we just had. I wonder if this transition would have gone smoother if we didn’t do it at the same time she was trying to process the massive change of starting preschool the same week. My concern was having two huge transitions close together, rather than ripping off a massive bandage all at once. Maybe that wasn’t the right choice. Maybe that makes me a mean Mommy. It felt like the right thing to do at the time and we did our best to do what we thought was best for her.
What I know for sure is that my daughter is a strong-willed, determined little girl, capable of anything. I knew that this process would be hard for her, but we believed in her and knew she could do it. I believe that this experience, though difficult, made her stronger, more resilient and more adaptable. We all want the best for our kids and for them to be happy. But I truly feel that it’s not the worst thing for kids to be challenged from a young age to overcome obstacles that force them to learn and grow. It’s empowering and builds character.
Over the past two weeks, we’ve seen her work hard to vocalize how she feels, compared to popping a pacifier into her mouth. She is making massive strides in her verbal communication when she’s upset. The growth she’s shown us is something we’re so incredibly proud of. She’s our little powerhouse and I know that this challenging milestone is the first of many that she’ll conquer with great fortitude.
It’s summer and it’s hot out. This fresh, creamy smoothie is the perfect drink to take out with you on a walk or to drink when you get inside to cool down.
I’m a bit obsessed with adding mint to food and drinks when I can. The fresh taste is so satisfying and it helps to soothe a sensitive tummy. I like adding a scoop of collagen powder to this smoothie for a kick of protein. The healthy fats from the avocado help to keep me full for longer than a smoothie with just fruit would. The fresh fruits and leafy greens provide a large dose of vitamin C and a variety of minerals to nourish your body.
I was nervous to meet you. I was more nervous to meet you than I was to meet your big sister. With her, I was naive about what life with a baby would be like. I mostly felt excitement. With you, I was excited too, but I also felt very nervous.
I felt nervous about doing it all again – the breastfeeding, the sleepless nights, the postpartum recovery, the shift in family dynamic, the responsibility of raising and nurturing another human. But more than that, I felt nervous about the love.
I couldn’t begin to imagine being able to love another child as much as I loved your big sister – she was my world. That fear was hard to admit. I was terrified that I wouldn’t feel connected to you in the same way. I was scared that I wouldn’t know how to divide myself between you two. With all of that fear came extreme guilt and shame. I was expecting my second healthy baby and I was incredibly grateful for that. And still, I felt guilty that I wasn’t more excited. I felt so scared of failing you. I felt scared that I wouldn’t be able to fulfil the needs of two kids and that I’d let you down. I really didn’t want to let you down. I wanted to be a Mom you would be proud of.
And then you were born.
Eight pounds of new existence. The moment I saw you, it was as if I’d known you my whole life. It felt like I had been living as an incomplete being until that moment, and it was you I’d been waiting for to complete my world. You were the puzzle piece I didn’t know was missing.
You looked up at me with those foggy newborn eyes, and they felt comfortably familiar. Moments after arriving earthside, you began to nurse with this confidence that relaxed me. It melted everything into place. It assured me that you and I were going to be ok.
The love was there.
The love was there even more than my heart could handle. As I held you in my arms, memorizing your new features, I couldn’t believe I had ever doubted my ability to love you. I loved you with every fibre of my being. You were perfect.
My sweet boy – you and your big sister are the light of my life and my love for you both knows no bounds.
There will be a lot of things I’ll struggle with in motherhood, but loving you will never be one of them.
These cold, winter days call for comfort foods that warm my tummy. This soup is so jam packed with nourishing ingredients. I can’t decide which one is the all-star here, so I’ll highlight a few!
Let’s start with bone broth. The bone broth I use in this recipe is homemade from chicken bones (see notes below if you want to use an alternate liquid). Bone broth is one of the most healing foods you can consume. It’s full of collagen and minerals that help to repair the gut, boost the immune system, reduce inflammation and encourage liver detoxification from the glycine and potassium it contains.
Carrots are one of my favourite vegetables. They contain high levels of vitamin A, and are a great source of vitamin K, fibre, and biotin. Next we have sweet potatoes which are loaded with carotenes, vitamin C and vitamin B6.
Lentils are high in fibre and protein, but relatively low in calories. They help to balance the body’s pH level because they are a very alkaline source of protein. I love cooking with red lentils because I find them to be so adaptable. They cook quickly and blend in well with other flavours. The garlic, ginger, onions and turmeric combine to make this soup an anti-inflammatory powerhouse!
My whole family enjoys this dish. My toddler and baby gobble it right up! My baby is nearly one and has had each of these ingredients separately prior to having this soup, so I feel comfortable feeding it to him knowing he won’t have a reaction. I add more salt to the servings that I give to myself and my husband. I also add one or two Thai green chillies to the recipe if I don’t plan on giving it to my kids.
This dish is so nourishing and warming during the winter months, I can’t stop making it. The combination of red lentils, carrots, sweet potatoes and bone broth make this soup a complete meal.
Course: Dinner, Main Course, Soup
Keyword: Dinner, Main Course, Soup
1cupred lentilssoaked and rinsed well
1medium sweet potatopeeled and chopped
2medium carrotspeeled and chopped
2cloves of garlicchopped finely
1cubefresh ginger rootpeeled and chopped finely
1/2tsppink or sea salt add more to taste
4cupsbone broth or water or vegetable stock I like to do 3 cups of bone broth and 1 cup of water
1-2Thai green chilies, choppedif you like some spice!
Start by measuring out 1 cup of red lentils and let them soak in cold water. By the time you’ve prepped the rest of the recipe, it’s usually enough time for them to soak (about 20 minutes).
Peel the sweet potato and carrots, then chop them into cubes. Dice the red onion and finely chop the garlic and ginger. Make sure to remove the skin from the ginger first.
The lentils will have expanded quite a bit after being soaked.
Using a fine-mesh strainer, rinse the lentils well with cold water, until the water runs clear.
In a medium sauce pan, add the coconut oil, onion, garlic and ginger, on medium heat. Stir them around frequently until the onions run clear and begin to brown.
Add the bone broth (or liquid combination of your choice) to the saucepan. Then add the rinsed lentils, sweet potato, carrots, dried coriander, turmeric, sea salt and fresh parsley. Give it all a good stir.
Turn the heat up to high and bring the liquid to a boil.
Once boiling, reduce heat to simmer/low and cover with a lid. Let it simmer for 20-25 minutes.
Stir the soup occasionally to make sure nothing is sticking to the bottom. Just be sure to add the lid back on quickly after you’ve finished stirring.
After 20ish minutes, the veggies should be quite soft. Use a hand masher to mash up the soup, leaving it slightly chunky. You could also pour the contents of the saucepan into a blender and blend on high for 1 to 2 minutes to make a smoother consistency.
Serve immediately and enjoy! Put the leftovers in the fridge to enjoy for a few days. The soup will thicken up quite a bit in the fridge, so I like to add a bit of water to the soup when I reheat it on the stove.
Did you make this recipe? Let me know what you think of it in the comments below! Any questions about the recipe instructions or ingredients used can also be asked in the comments. Happy cooking folks!